Friday, September 25, 2009

Computer

I am sitting here in my husband's much too big office chair. He loves this chair. I often see him sitting here, leaning back with eyes closed as he meditates on life. This chair is way too big for me. My legs aren't long enough to reach the floor and I can't sit back and relax because I'm too short to reach the back of the seat. I feel like a little kid in a grown-up's chair and I don't like it.

So why I am I sitting in this uncomfortable big chair?

My computer died. I mourned for it all day, but it could not be resuscitated. Inside my dead computer there is much information that I need. It holds our financial records, pictures of my life, addresses of friends and relatives, and of course the record my exciting and interesting blog. It is gone and I sit here in my husband's big chair so I can use his computer and share my loss with you.

I will recover from my mourning quickly because I have the good fortune to be married to my very own in-house IT guy. He came home last night with a brand spanking new computer for me. This week-end he will do his magic and somehow retrieve all that wonderful information from the hard drive of my dead computer and transfer it to my new machine. I don't know how he will do that. I really do believe there is a bit of magic involved. I am grateful to have married someone with skills. I love a man with skills.

Saturday, September 19, 2009

School Teacher


Today is my mom's birthday. She would have been 104. The photo of the two of us was taken in1945. I miss my mom.

Mom was a school teacher. She often entertained us with stories about her early days of teaching. She was a great story teller.

She began her teaching career in Texas in 1924. Her first contract to teach in a public school there contained clauses that not many would sign today. It stipulated that she would never use tobacco, drink spirits, play cards, nor “keep company”on school nights. It also required that she attend church services every Sunday. One final requirement was that she would quit immediately should she ever marry. She signed without hesitation, happy to have a job, and thinking there was nothing unusual in the contract.

My favorite of her many teaching stories concerned a light bulb. She had grown up in a home without electricity. Electric lights were a wonder to her. She considered light bulbs to be very valuable things. One day there was a fire drill at her school and the building had to be evacuated. She hurriedly sent her students down the outdoor fire escape. She then looked around the room to see if there was anything valuable that she should save from the fire. She saw that wonderful electric light bulb hanging above her desk and knew that it should be saved. Quickly she climbed onto her desk, reached up and unscrewed the bulb. Before climbing out of the window and descending the ladder she thew that bulb to safety on the ground below where it shattered into a million piece

Friday, September 18, 2009

Peace

I am in a warm place where all feels safe and peaceful. I am a giant oak tree planted firmly in the ground standing straight and tall, ready for all storms. One foot lifts up and presses firmly against my other leg as my arms lift high. I am an aspen tree quaking in the wind looking graceful and beautiful as I sway in the wind. One foot is planted firmly on the floor as I lean forward, hands reaching out, with my other leg stretched out behind and curving upward. I am beautiful young dancer ready to leap into the sky. I am floating on the warmth, slowly breathing in gratitude and breathing out peace. All is well with my soul.

I do love my aqua yoga class.

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Bugs

I am grateful that our laundry room is not equipped with a surveillance camera. It might have recorded an ugly sight last night.

It was late when I was getting ready for bed. From the sound of snoring I knew my beloved was already sleeping. I had taken off all my clothes but when I reached for my jammies I realized that they were not on their usual hook. Oh yes, I had washed them and they were still in the laundry room waiting to be folded and put away. The house was dark as I ran to retrieve them wearing nothing but my birthday suit. When I flicked on the light to grab my jammies I was greeted by a herd of enormous crickets. I hate bugs. I especially hate bugs that might jump on me when we are sharing a small confined space. I hate them even more when I am naked and feeling very vulnerable. My scream did not awaken my beloved so I was left to deal with the monsters on my own. This morning the laundry room floor is littered with several books which were used as weapons to still the jumping, woman-eating bugs. Under each book is a dead bug. I got my jammies and left hurriedly after the great battle. Today I have not yet worked up enough nerve to clean up the field of battle.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Friday, September 11, 2009

9/11

Click here for some of my thoughts and memories about this date

Wednesday, September 09, 2009

Playlist

The playlist in my head is always set on random and plays almost continuously. Whenever I am working around the house or doing some mindless chore the playlist becomes more audible and I start singing along with whatever song currently playing in my head. More often than not I catch myself singing an old hymn from my childhood, but it could be a song that I heard on the radio or a song we have learned in the senior chorale. I just start singing without realizing it.

One day this summer I was singing as I cleaned up the kitchen while we were on vacation with our grandsons. My sixteen year old boy told me that he loved to listen to me sing. I always sounded happy and that made him feel good. I thought it was a great compliment.

I have not always had such nice things said about my unconscious singing. One day long ago I was singing as I made a patient's bed in the hospital. The patient was a frail little old lady whom I had just bathed and dressed. I had brushed her hair and put a pretty ribbon in it. She looked pretty as she sat in in a chair while I changed her sheets. She listened to me sing for a few minutes then said, “Honey, when you were young I bet you could sing.”

What is the appropriate response to a statement like that? I quit singing.

Saturday, September 05, 2009

Happy Explosion


My seldom used guest bathroom appears to have had a major explosion. Various colors of hair ribbons are draped over the towel bar. The cord of a curling iron hangs off the counter and snakes across the floor. The counter is covered with make-up, hair pins, and a wild assortment of toiletries. The pile spills onto the floor and across the hall into the guest bedroom. The bedroom is filled with books and papers, a colorful assortment of clothes, and pom poms of burgundy and blue. The house seems to be filled with a happy energy that perks up the quiet of our everyday life. My granddaughter,the high school pom, is spending the week-end with us.

The rest of her family is out of town for the long weekend, but she could not go. She is a member of the high school pom squad and today is the first football game of the season. She will be performing at half time and there was no way she could miss her first performance. She is so excited and happy. We are delighted to share this moment with her. We are blessed.

Thursday, September 03, 2009

School Days

It is September and all my school-aged grandchildren are back in class. I hear there is a lot of homework in college. Pom poms are hard work. High-school is not as bad as expected, and the best thing about middle school is having your own locker. I spoke with my West Virginia granddaughter who has just moved to Louisiana and asked how she like school in her new home. She said that school was good except for two problems. They called her a Yankee (there was an adjective used before Yankee that I won't use.) She explained that she was not a Yankee but that her gramma was one. She also said that the school is full of red-necks and racists, but she could deal with them, so all in all, school and Louisiana were good.

So I guess life is going well for the next generation in my family.

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Week End thoughts

We have enjoyed a lovely week end.

Friday night we joined with family and friends to introduce some Texas friends to the fine art of eating crabs. If you have never seen a crab up close figuring out how to get inside can be a bit daunting. The friends caught on quickly and were using their crab mallets like experts by the end of the evening. The first person to eat a crab must have been very brave and very hungry to try to break inside that ugly shell for dinner.

We slept late and Saturday and moved slowly for a few hours. I finished re-reading “Pillars of the Earth.” Wow, that is a great a story. I had read it several years ago, but had forgotten a lot. I think I enjoyed it more this time. What books have read over again and enjoyed more the second time?

We went to see “Julie and Julia” in the late afternoon. Great movie! There is one scene in which the young blogger gets into a big fight with her husband. He is feeling angry and resentful because she has been spending so much time with her blog. Have you ever let your blog interfere with your life?

We came out of the movie hungry for good food. Not knowing where to find a French restaurant we found a lovely Italian place and enjoyed a well prepared, delicious dinner.

Sunday morning is one of my favorite times of the week. I love going to church. The singing is always good. The sermon was interesting. The people love each other. It is just a good place to be. Then this afternoon the church had their annual crab feast. More crabs and more friends. Maybe one day I will actually learn to like eating crabs. I eat a piece of chicken and enjoy watching the others picking crabs. It is just one of those events that is part of living in Maryland. Do you love eating crabs?

This evening we went to the pool for an hour. We both have been plagued with arthritis pain lately, but in the pool we can move without pain. It is so much fun to glide through the water and just enjoy the movement and not think about hurting. It was a lovely way to wind up a lovely week end.

What did you do this week end?

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Sunrise, Sunset


We had an end of summer family gathering last Sunday. The excuse we used for the party was to wish our third grandchild bon voyage as she heads off for college this week, but mostly we just wanted a chance to be together. We talked, we ate, we laughed, we played, and of course we took pictures. When I looked at my grandbabies I realized that they are not babies at all. The are young adults and teen agers. How did they manage to grow so quickly? My eldest granddaughter, our Disney princess, has just started a new job in a downtown law firm. Her brother has just signed all the papers to join the Air Force. He will be leaving in a few months for a new life. Grandchild number three is heading to Pennsylvania to begin college. The next three are all in high school and the little one began junior high school this week. How did this happen?

Could it be that I am getting older too?

Monday, August 24, 2009

Vacation Memories

It was lovely to wake up to an empty, quiet house today. Our Disney vacation with the boys was wonderful, but it is nice to be home to my quiet routine.


There were lots of wonderful moments on our vacation. One of my favorite memories was the Rockin' Roller Coaster. The boys really wanted to ride, but the line was ninety minutes long. As we stopped to talk about whether the ride would be worth the wait a young Disney cast member came over to us and asked if we wanted to ride. We said yes but the wait was too long. She replied that she had just been told to pick a family for a VIP tour of the ride and she picked us. We bypassed the long line and she took us onto the ride telling us all how she loved working on this ride. At the close of every day they enjoy an all-cast ride and everyone who works the ride goes on it together. She loved it. Grampa and I decided to skip the ride itself, but did enjoy the pre-ride show. The boys loved it and agreed that it was the best ride of the week. You can see their joy in this picture as they sped out of the starting gate.



Another favorite moment was from the day we decided to sleep late and skip the Disney crowds. We went to Gatorland for a couple of hours of alligator viewing. We fed the gators and watched an alligator show. It really was great fun with no crowds.

Vacations with grandchildren make wonderful memories!

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Disney World

Last Christmas my sixteen-year-old grandson was diagnosed with diabetes. He was pretty sick and spent a week in the hospital. Life has been difficult for DQ. He has had severe behavior problems that led to major problems at home and at school. He now lives in a group home with six other boys. Last Christmas I made a deal with DQ. If he would follow the diet and get his sugar under control, get his school work on track and make the honor role, and keep his behavior in line, then I would take him to Disney World this summer. I really did not think he could pull all three of those off, but he surprised me. He is off insulin and controls his disease with a pill and diet. He is on the honor roll at school. Life is good and he is getting along with all the people in his life. I am very proud of him.

We leave for Orlando tomorrow for a week in the happiest place on earth. His fourteen-year-old cousin is joining us for our Disney adventure. Both boys are very excited.

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Politics

I really do not like politics because nobody ever seems to listen to anybody. It is just people shouting and saying bad things about people with whom they think they disagree.

If I have figured it out right there are liberals and there are conservatives. The liberals think government should have a larger role in how things are done. The conservatives think government should do less and let the free market and individuals have more say in how things are done. That is an honest difference of opinion about what is the best way for the country to operate. One idea is not evil and the other good, but they are different opinions. People might want more government control in some areas of life and less in others, so there is some liberal and some conservative in all of us. I just don't understand all the screaming and shouting. It makes my ears hurt and does not help to solve anything.

Obama is a liberal. The conservatives say he is evil. If he could fix the economic mess we are in tomorrow the conservatives would find fault because they are convinced he can do nothing that is good. It seems impossible for them to listen to him. My conservative friends quote conservative authors and pundits to back up their point of view. Gingrich, Limbaugh and Palin are conservatives. The liberals seem to hate them and mock everything they say as hate filled fear mongering. The liberals quote other liberals to back up their point of view. It seems that nobody is really listening and there is great fear among us. It makes me sad and angry.

I tend to lean to the liberal side of things. I think the government needs to intervene to make things better. I have family and friends who disagree with that idea. I respect that we are honest, patriotic people who disagree. We do not need to shout. We need to listen and respect one another.

Is it possible for people to be more respectful of one another?

Monday, August 10, 2009

Hymn

They sang my favorite hymn during church yesterday. We don't sing it very often, but every time it is sung my heart seems to swell up inside me and tears begin to fall. There is just something about it that has always touched the deep places in my soul.

I grew up in the Church of Christ. Sunday morning, Sunday evening and Wednesday evening were always times to meet for worship. I loved going to church. One of my favorite things was when occasionally on Sunday or Wednesday evening the congregation got to choose the songs we sang. As soon as the song-leader would ask if there was a request my hand would shoot up and I would yell out, “Number 299!” “OK, we'll sing your favorite song, Sue.” I would then smile and sing with all the feeling my heart felt.

I was an adult before I learned the story behind the hymn. It was written in 1873 by a man named Horatio Spafford. He was a successful businessman in Chicago. He and his wife Anna were blessed with five children. In 1871 their youngest child and only son died, and the Spaffords lost all their possessions in the great Chicago fire. Their faith sustained them as they recovered from their great loss. Then in 1873 the family decided to take a family vacation and travel to England. At the last minute a problem with his business demanded Horatio's attention and he sent his family on ahead, promising to follow on the next ship. The ship on which his wife and daughters were sailing was caught in a great storm and sank. Two-hundred twenty-six people, including the four Spafford girls, were drowned. His wife was rescued. As soon as she was able she sent a cable to Horatio which said, “Saved alone. What shall I do.” He sailed for England immediately to be with his wife. As his ship passed over the site of the sunken ship, it paused and Horatio looked out on the great sea that had swallowed up his precious daughters. When he returned to cabin he wrote, “It is Well With My Soul.”

Thursday, August 06, 2009

Inspiriation

This week a total stranger inspired me to continue living life to the fullest.

My husband and I frequently go to the pool on Sunday evenings. We don't swim, but we walk in the water, talk and enjoy some peaceful time together. It is a pleasant way to finish the week end.

Last Sunday evening a little old lady inspired me. As we were walking in the water I noticed the door to the girl's locker room opening very slowly. A little old lady with a walker was pushing the heavy door open as she crept onto the pool deck. She plopped heavily into the nearest chair, appearing exhausted. She was hunched over with the weight of age and her wrinkled body made her appear crinkly. A man who I assume was her middle aged son came over and spoke with her. A moment later she pulled on her old white rubber bathing cap. Her son assisted her and they slowly began their way around the pool. There is a lovely, warm therapy pool with a wheelchair accessible entrance at the far end of the regular pool. I assumed they were heading there where this lady could stretch her old muscles. I was admiring her for knowing that the warm water would be beneficial when she stopped at the steps of the regular pool. Her son assisted her as she struggled down the steps and into the water. I thought they must not have noticed the lovely, warm therapy pool with its easy entrance. She made her way to the deeper water and began to swim. For the next thirty minutes this woman who appeared to be about a hundred years old swam laps. I was amazed. We assume when a person is old they can no longer do the things they once enjoyed. I just assumed she was too old. This lady could no longer stand up straight, she could barely walk, but she certainly could swim. She was smiling as she left the pool.

When was the last time a total stranger inspired you?

Monday, August 03, 2009

Make Up

Through the wonder of Facebook I found my friend Judy today. She moved away and we have not seen each other in many years. Our kids were good friends when they were teenagers and we shared a lot of the joys and trials of having adolescent children. We bonded.

Judy was, and probably still is, a Mary Kay lady. She almost got me to wear make up.

I have never worn make up. I always felt silly when I tried to wear it. I just figured it was not worth the effort for me. Judy thought I would like wearing make up and persuaded me to come to her house for a make up party. She assured me that it would be fun. I went and it was fun, but I was out of my comfort zone. We all received a sample of foundation cream and were told to apply it in the usual manner. I stared at it for a while and watched the other women. I just wasn't sure how to proceed. Finally I confessed I had never applied foundation cream and didn't know how. With a smile Judy instructed me on the fine art of applying make up. At the end of the evening all the women there said I looked beautiful. My cheeks were rosy. My eyelids were shadowed. My eyelashes looked long and lovely. My lips were rich and full. I looked almost stunning. I felt glamorous. Then I went home. I walked in the door feeling oh so pretty. My son looked up from his video game and stared at me. I prepared myself for his compliment. He said, “What's that stuff on your eyes. It makes you look weird.” I smiled knowing he was just an adolescent who did not appreciate beauty. I walked down the hall to show my beloved husband my beautiful new face. He stared at me and finally said, “What do you have all over face?” I sighed and asked if he didn't think I looked beautiful. He smiled and told me that I always looked beautiful. I washed off the make up and felt a bit relieved to just be me again.

Saturday, August 01, 2009

Women of Faith

I have spent the past two days at a Women of Faith conference. It was wonderful. Great music. Inspiring speakers. Good friends. We laughed, we cried and we worshiped God together. We have already reserved our seats for the conference next year.

I can't really share all the good stuff that happened, so I'll just share a corny Women of Faith joke.

Once upon a time there was a gynecologist who had grown tired of his profession. He was a good doctor, but he no longer found gynecology fulfilled his dreams. He decided he wanted to become a mechanic. He apprenticed himself to a master mechanic and worked hard to become a skilled in his new profession. After much work and study the time came for his final examination. He thought he had done well, but waited anxiously for the final test results to come in the mail. The letter came at last and he discovered that he had scored 150% on the exam. Although he was happy with this score he did not understand how he could have scored 150%. He decided to call his teacher who explained the score to him. He was told that he had scored 50% for taking an engine apart perfectly. He earned another 50% for putting the engine back together perfectly. The third 50% was earned for doing it all through the muffler.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Todd

Todd is thirty-six years old today. He has been drifting in and out of my thoughts all day. So many memories. So many questions.

Todd is our foster son. He came to live with us when he was fifteen years old. He was a sweet boy with a long, troubled past. I never did learn all the stories of his life before he became part of our family. I know there were stories of abandonment, fear and abuse. All that seemed irrelevant to us. He was a boy in need of a home. We had a home that seemed too empty after our kids had grown and gone.


The picture above was taken shortly after he came to live with us. He did not trust people. We were just the next people in line to take care of him. There had been at least ten parental figures in his life before we knew him. He came to us from a children's home. He always referred to it as “The Home.” It never was just home. Our first year together was one of many ups and downs and adjustments. He became our son. We loved him. When he got into some major trouble he quietly packed his bags and prepared to leave. In his past life getting into trouble meant getting kicked out and moving on to the next place. We made him unpack and he stayed. I smiled when I overheard him talking to his friends and he referred to us as his mom and dad and invited his friends to come home with him. Life smoothed out. He learned to drive. He graduated from high school. The picture below was taken when he was seventeen. He was a beautiful boy.


He married and had a little baby girl, but adult responsibility was too hard for Todd. The social worker said he was troubled with attachment deficit syndrome. I believe that his early life had left him with a hole in his heart. One day he climbed into his truck and just drove away. We have not heard from him in over six years. I miss him.

His eleven year old daughter promised me this week that she would always love me. She promised she would never disappear like her daddy did.

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Not a Shooting Star

I just watched the space shuttle/space station fly right over my house. It is hard to believe that the shooting star soaring across the sky is carrying thirteen people flying at 15,000 mph. Amazing!

Saturday, July 25, 2009

Take Me Out to the Ballgame

Our town is blessed with a minor league baseball team, the Bowie Baysox. Last night was perfect baseball weather so we went to see our team play the Redding Phillies.It was great fun. The players are all very young and excited to be playing professional baseball. We saw friends and neighbors. We discovered again how much better a hot dog tastes with a baseball game in front of it. There were stupid games between the innings that made us laugh. We enjoyed the earth worm digging contest and the tire/ plunger relay. After the game there was a huge pillow fight among the hundred or more fans who had brought their pillows for this purpose. It would have been a perfect evening if our team had won, but, alas, that did not happen.

When was the last time you watched a baseball game?

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Reciepts

While cleaning out my closet today I found a box of old receipts. These may explain why I find today's prices hard to pay. Here is a list of some of the papers and receipts I found.

1.Our marriage license issued in June 1961 by the county of Los Angeles - $2.00. What does a marriage license cost today?

2.A telegram offering my new husband, a graduate of Cal Tech, a job at Douglas Aircraft. Salary offered was $600 per month. We couldn't imagine needing that much money.

3.A receipt from the pretty little inn where we honeymooned, the Inn at Rancho Santa Fe, - $20 per night.

4.The rental agreement for our first apartment, a nice 2 bedroom place in Culver City, CA- $90 per month.

5.The rental agreement for our first house, a lovely 3 bedroom with a big yard in Santa Monica, CA - $150 per month.
6.The hospital bill for our first child. She was born at UCLA Medical Center in 1963. I was in the hospital for three days. - $160.

7.In 1964 we moved to Maryland and my husband went to work for NASA. He was a GS 11 which meant he could earn $8000 annually. The highest salary a government worker could earn, a GS 18, was $20,000 annually.

8.Our second child was born in 1965 in Maryland. The cost had gone up considerably. The total hospital bill for her birth was $258.

9.Receipts from the pediatrician show that an office visit was $5 and a DPT shot was another $3. What is the cost of an office visit today?

10.We bought the house we still live in in 1964. The cost was $16,400.

This might explain why folks my age have a hard time understanding the cost of living in today's world.

Monday, July 20, 2009

Tour de France

I have been watching a lot of the Tour de France this year. I know nothing about cycling except that Lance Armstrong has won this race a bunch of times and has yellow bracelets that people like to wear. I wanted to see what it was that made my niece get up at O-dark-thirty to watch men on bicycles. Here are some of my observations after watching a few days.

1.I want to go to France. The scenery is stunning. I think I would prefer to tour in a car instead of on a bike.

2.The race is a team sport. Who knew?

3.There is a yellow jersey awarded to each day's winner. There is also a green, a polka-dotted and a white jersey that are big awards. I don't understand how points are awarded for each of these winners.

4.It is a very long event. The course winds around France and it's borders for over 2000 miles. The cyclists have amazing endurance.

5.The spectators are crazy. They crowd up so close to the riders that it is scary. They touch the riders and run along beside them. It must be nerve-wracking for the riders. I was not surprised to hear a spectator was killed by an escort motorcycle.

6.Yesterday's race up the mountains was really very exciting.

7.I want to go to France.

Saturday, July 18, 2009

Recycling

We discovered the floor in our storage shed. You can actually walk in and see what is in there.

Our town had a community shred and electronic recycling event today. We got rid of a box of canceled checks dating back to 1964. The old electronics took up a huge amount of space. My techie husband had accumulated lots of gadgets over the years. We recycled three old computers, keyboards, scanners, printers, monitors, TVs, old phones, VCRs, set top boxes, zip drives, an old UPS, a tape drive back-up system, modems, speakers, receivers, a radio and mice. I'm sure I missed something, but we filled the back of my station wagon. I'm not sure how all that stuff gets recycled, but I sure am glad to it gone.

What do you do with your old, broken, unusable electronics?

Thursday, July 16, 2009

One Small Step

Where were you forty years ago today?
Do you remember what you were doing when this happened?

Poem

I think this poem is very profound.

Autobiography in Five Chapters
By: Nyoshul Khenpo

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost.....I am hopeless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again.
I can't believe I'm in the same place.
But it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in...it's a habit
My eyes are open
I know where I am
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it

I walk down another street.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Funeral Music

I have attended far too many funerals recently. These friends were my contemporaries, people who have lived full and happy lives, and are now suddenly just gone. They leave a hole in my world.

All these good-byes have made me think about the inevitability of my own death and wonder about what will be said and done when my time comes. Music is always an important part of a memorial service. I have always told my family I want them to play “When the Saints Go Marching In,” preferably with a brass band. I want them to remember this is a celebration of heaven and a time of joy. I intend to be marching along with all the saints in a happy parade. My favorite hymn has always been”When Peace Like A River.” Play that hymn and remember me. And here's one more song. It has some parting advice from me to all those I leave behind. I do like this song.

Sunday, July 12, 2009

Swim for Life



Friday evening my son had to “carb load” for the big swim meet he was to swim on Saturday. He invited anyone in the family who could to come eat spaghetti with him as he prepared for the event. With the offer of free food fourteen relatives showed up to help him eat the ton of food he had prepared. Our family is good to help each other when free food is involved. We all ate like we were going to swim with him.

Saturday morning we all met at the Chester River near Chestertown on Maryland's Eastern Shore. David was one of the 215 swimmers who were participating in the Swim for Life race. Swimmers could choose to swim either one, two, three, four, or five miles. David swam five miles. Swimming in a choppy, murky river is a lot harder than swimming in a pool. These were some strong, athletic people. We all cheered him on at the start and then sat and enjoyed relaxing in the sunshine and visiting for the next two hours. We cheered those who swam the shorter races as they completed their swims and began to anxiously watch for our man to come into sight. We were excited to finally spot him as he approached the finish line and cheered wildly. He ran out of the river through the finish gate and collapsed onto the sand. I've never seen him so exhausted. After about ten minutes my tired, dehydrated boy drank two big bottles of water and began to look like he would recover. The exertion had left him quivering, sore, and nauseated. He wasn't sure he ever wanted to swim again.

He called this afternoon to report that he was fine today. He had polished off a huge dinner last night and felt great today. He is talking about swimming across the Chesapeake Bay next year.

Thursday, July 09, 2009

VBS

Sunday night our church building did a quick change over as the chocolate world of Wonka turned into the land of Moses and ancient Egypt. This is Vacation Bible School week. It is a lot of hard work for a lot of adults and a world of fun and adventure for the little ones. I have been shepherding a group of three and four-year-olds from song-time, to story-time, to game-time, and to craft-time. The kids say and do things every night that make me laugh.

One lesson was about how mean Pharaoh was when he wouldn't let the people go.The kids acted out the plagues that God sent to Egypt. They stuck red dots all over Pharaoh to represent boils, and threw wadded up paper at him to represent hailstones. One little girl said she thought we should try being nice to mean ol' Pharaoh and then he might let the people go. I think it's wonderful to see the innocence of a four-year-old who thinks being nice will overcome evil.



I took a little three-year old boy to the bathroom. He assured me he needed no help, then proceeded to lock himself into the stall. After doing what he came to do he was unable to unlock the stall. I surely could not crawl under to rescue him. I had to enlist the help of a near-by child to come to his rescue.

During game time one evening the kids were getting pretty wet. They had to cross a bridge over a small pool while squirt gun were aimed in their direction. One practical little fellow did not want to get his clothes wet, so he took them all off and ran into the water in his birthday suit. He did not understand why people were laughing at him.



I'm amazed at how much the kids actually learn during all this fun and frolic. While driving some of them home I hear them telling each other what they learned. They learn the Bible stories and songs and tell each other not to be afraid because God is always with them.

It is powerful thing for a child to know that God loves them.

Sunday, July 05, 2009

Willie Wonka





Part of our July 4th celebration included attending the matinée performance of Willie Wonka. Our church has a theater troupe which has just presented an excellent rendition of Roald Dahl's chocolaty story. I am amazed at the talent that I saw. Most of the performers were children, but many adults were in the cast also. It was an amazing set. The costumes were wonderful. The patience and hard wok of the directors were awesome. My talented eleven year granddaughter was the understudy for Mike TV. In the other shows she one of the Oompa Loompas. The understudy cast did the show on the Fourth. They were all just as talented as the main cast, just a bit younger.

I think I will be singing, “Oompa Loompa Oompa Dee Do” for a long time.

Well done to the entire cast and crew!

Friday, July 03, 2009

Rehoboth Beach


I have just returned from a lovely three day stay in Rehoboth Beach with my two beautiful teen-aged granddaughters. It was a lot of fun. While we were there I received the coveted title of “The Coolest Gramma Ever.” It is one of my favorite titles.

We arrived several hours before we were able to check into our hotel so we headed straight to Whiskey Beach, one of my favorite places. Don't look for it on the map. Maps refer to it as Gordon Pond State Park, kind of a boring name. Whiskey Beach was the name given to it during the days of prohibition when rum-runners used it to sneak their cargo ashore and soldiers from a near-by army base used it for parties. These days it is a clean quiet beach. There is only one concession stand where you rent umbrellas and buy snacks, so there is none of the distraction of the boardwalk. There are two tall look-out towers on the beach, relics of World War II when they were used to watch for enemy ships. The girls frolicked in the surf, we walked down to investigate the towers, and spent a great deal of time people watching. The beach is a wonderful place for people watching.

When we checked into our hotel I went to the pool and left the room to the girls for about an hour so they could shower and change for an evening on the boardwalk. When I arrived in the room they had showed and were dressing for the evening. I showered and changed so we could leave, but waited another hour. It takes teenage girls a long time to dress. They had to try on all of each others clothes and mix and match their outfits multiple times. It seems that wearing the right thing on the boardwalk is very important. After all a boy might notice them. The evening was fun. After the required dinner of Grotto's Pizza we checked out all the shops and had our picture made at the Old Time Photos shop. You can see by the result that they thought this was fun. I was getting tired and left them to ride the rides at Funland and went back to the hotel for some quiet time.

The next day was rainy. We did some Outlet shopping, ate good food, laughed a lot, got henna tattoos, and rode the bumper cars together at Funland. Spending time with these two girls is such a treat.

We woke up yesterday to beautiful sunshine and blue sky, a perfect day for the beach, but, after a short stroll on the sand and a stop at two more shops, we had to pack up and head for home. As we pulled away they gave me my coveted Cool Gramma title.

Sunday, June 28, 2009

A Wonderful Birthday

My long time readers all remember my sister-in-law, Jean. Last July Jean fell and suffered a terrible head injury. We didn't expect her to survive the massive trauma to her brain. She was on a ventilator and in a coma for almost three months. Then one day she just woke up again. She has slowly regained her ability to speak. She remains totally paralyzed on her left side and her health is fragile. She remains in a nursing home where my brother Bill spends most of his days with her.

Today is Jean's eightieth birthday, and it was a most wonderful day. When asked what she wanted for her birthday, she had a quick request. She wanted to go to church. This morning the nurses woke her up early for her big day. She was showered and dressed in her Sunday best. Bill hired a wheelchair accessible van and a health aide to accompany them and they went to church. They have been an active part of their little congregation for thirty years. The people there are family. My other brother and his family met them there and the church was filled with joy at her return. After the service there was birthday cake and celebration. Jean leaned over to Bill and asked him to tell everyone to please shut up. She wanted to say something. She gave a little speech about her memories and the love she felt for the people there. She told a joke about getting old.

It was just a wonderful day that we never expected to see. God is good.

Happy birthday Jean. You are one tough old lady.

Friday, June 26, 2009

Nothing Much

Sometimes it is hard to think of something interesting to fill this space. How do I make the life of a contented senior citizen sound interesting? My days recently have been pretty quiet. I read, play on the computer, work in the yard, go to the pool for water aerobics, and take lots of folks to various doctor appointments. I am trying to write some lessons for vacation Bible school at church, but I'm having trouble getting motivated. I read the paper and watch the news. Politics and scandals are ever present. I have some fairly strong political views. I am mostly a left-leaning Democrat, but there are no easy solutions to most of the problems, and people I love and admire have different ideas. I don't really want to fill this space with politics. I've been to funerals for two friends recently. One, like Farrah Fawcett, had fought a long hard battle against cancer. Her death was not a surprise. The other was a young, apparently healthy man who, like Michael Jackson, died suddenly and unexpectedly. Their deaths make me more aware of my own mortality and the limited time I have on this earth. I have wonderful children and even more wonderful grandchildren, but you probably get tired of my bragging about them. I feel a bit boring today.

Do you have any suggestions for me? What are some topics that I should write about? Give me some ideas, please. I need some help.

Monday, June 22, 2009

HowI Learned to Study the Bible

This was written by our daughter and published several years ago in a Christian magazine.Her dad cried when he read it.

"How I Learned to Study the Bible"

When I was twelve and was stumped on a math homework problem, the very last resort was to ask Dad for help. Not because he was impatient or because he couldn’t figure it out. Dad could always solve the math problems. The trouble was, he could solve it four different ways – and none of them were the way we solved it in class. He would explain every step and sometimes the history of the mathematician that proved this particular maneuver was possible. After about ten minutes, my eyes would glaze over and I would hurry my head nodding and affirmative grunts to convince him that I understood. Anything to get the paper back and figure it out for myself.

No one in the world looks forward to the annual cycle of school science fairs more than my father. I always enjoyed the biology experiments, like seeing if beans grew faster if watered with water, milk, or orange juice. But my father is a rocket scientist – literally. He wanted to detect the movement of the earth with pendulums. He wanted to calculate the pattern of random numbers with rolling dice (from his personal collection of hundreds of right and left-handed dice.)

One of the moments in my life for which I feel the most guilt is when I threw the universe in the trash. It was after the seventh grade science fair. Dad and I had stayed up late and created a hyperbolic parabaloid (don’t ask) that demonstrated the expanding rate of the universe. This model was big. It was sturdily constructed. It was heavy. The walk home was over a mile. It was hot outside. I saw no future use for this thing now that the projects had been graded. So I tossed it in the school dumpster. That night at dinner when I casually mentioned it, Dad was crestfallen, like a little boy whose shiny new toy gets run over in the street. I thought about going back to the dumpster. I’m grateful that he didn’t. Even though all his children are grown now, he still “competes” in science fairs. He helps his grandchildren. He helps children at church. He volunteers to judge at local schools.

My father taught me the most about God and studying the Bible at the crack of dawn and in the middle of the night. We would agree on a time, 5:30 am, 2:00 am. I would awake to him sitting quietly on the edge of my bed, gently tracing my face with his fingers. “It’s time,” he’d whisper so as not to waken my sister or mother or brothers. We’d tiptoe out of the house. Sometimes we’d get in the car and drive off to a remote area. If we were camping, we’d go on a long hike.
He had all the tools we needed: pens, books, paper for notes, binoculars. We’d creep along the edge of a forest in silence. Every now and then he’d cock his head and whisper, “woodthrush” or “chickadee.” “Do you hear it?” He’d try to imitate the call for me. And then we’d stalk the bird with the binoculars. I’d see a flash of bright yellow or deep red. And then there it was – a spectacular tananger, an exquisite oriole, or a curious woodpecker.

One cold middle of the night I stood in a field with him to look for Halley’s comet. In truth, the comet didn’t look like much. It looked like a star that somebody smudged. But I saw it. I won’t have that chance again for many years. I could have easily missed it. My dad found it for me. It was the kind of moment that wise men cross continents for.

How did I learn to study the Bible? I learned at the kitchen table that there is more than one approach to solve problems. I learned that the teacher doesn’t know the only way. And I learned that if I tried hard enough, I could figure it out for myself.

I learned that when you can figure something out, you share it. And once you’ve put hours into a project, don’t toss it carelessly into the trash. But once you’ve tossed something into the trash, don’t go digging it out again.
I often find that I am study the Bible to win arguments. But if I’m quiet and still, I might see a flash of spectacular beauty.

I learned that sometimes finding the unexpected beauty in scripture happens at unusual times, in the cold and the dark, but most often with a friend at your side, pointing heavenward. If you don’t see it now, it might be fourteen years before you see it.

On my 21st birthday, my parents gave me a terrific study Bible that I am diligently wearing out. Along with the inscriptions, my Dad included three verses that have shaped my approach to the Scriptures: 2 Timothy 2:15, 1 Thessalonians 5:21, and Ephesians 5:10. Read together they combine to make a great charge to anyone seeking God’s truth. “Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.” “Test everything. Hold on to the good.” “and find out what pleases the Lord.”

I sometimes get in trouble with the “Test everything” part. Sometimes we don’t want to hear questions that challenge our traditional beliefs and interpretations. But I know that God is bigger than our questions. He is bigger than our traditions. He wants us to search His word. He wants us to find out what pleases him.

The other day I was driving with my father. Without warning he swerved to the side of the road by a small wood and reached over to roll down my window. “Sometimes,” he said, “you can hear the woodthrush from the car if you stop and listen. Do you hear it?”

Sunday, June 21, 2009

Dad


I've been thinking about my dad today. I guess that is normal on Father's Day.

My dad grew up on a rice farm in east Texas. He was the youngest of nine children. I don't know too much about his childhood except that his dad died before he was born. This worried me when I was a little girl. I could not imagine life without a father. I once asked him how he learned to be a father. He told me that my brothers and I had taught him.

My dad worked in the oilfields as a young man. During the Depression he moved his little family to California where he became the foreman of an oil refinery and later supervised a chemical plant. He worked long, hard hours.

As a little girl I was not very aware of his fatigue and stress. All I knew was that I was his princess and he loved me, he loved my mother, he loved my brothers. Dad was a gentleman who read poetry to his wife and told us children wonderful stories. I remember my older brother coming home from school one day very upset. He thought my dad was the original author of Beowulf and was quite upset to learn that this story was an old English epic poem, not Dad's own imagination at work.

Dad was never able to go college, but he was the best educated man I knew. He read about everything. He dreamed of sending his own children to college. His pride when each of us graduated was enormous.

When we were grown and the grandchildren came along my dad saw each of them as perfect. His grandchildren could do no wrong, and he would never tolerate any criticism of them. The eyes of a proud grandfather saw no wrong.

My dad left us a legacy of love, faith and goodness. He was a good man. I miss my daddy.

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Anniversary



Today is our forty-eighth wedding anniversary. We were young and in love. We didn't know what lay ahead. We just knew we wanted to be married, so we began life's journey together. I often wonder how two kids from California ended up in Maryland with eight grandchildren. It has been a wonderful journey. There have good times and bad times and lots of in between times. God has blessed us.

To celebrate this milestone we went to see Man of La Mancha at our local community theater last week-end. The story is a powerful telling of how one man's love and his quest to right all wrongs can change a woman from an unwanted cast-off into a beloved and beautiful lady. The music always makes us both cry.

Dennis, thank you for letting me be your Dulcinea. Thank you for leading us to find unreachable stars. You have made so many impossible dreams come true. I love you.

Saturday, June 13, 2009

Divorce

On this date twenty-two years ago we celebrated another beautiful wedding. There was a lovely bride, happy families and funny stories. The memories are all a little tarnished and sometimes painful today. After seventeen years my second son-in-law decided he longer wanted to be married. He moved out and moved on to other relationships.

Divorce is painful. My daughter struggled with anger and uncertainty. What do you do with a broken dream? Their three beautiful children were confused and hurt. My husband and I were stunned, angry and felt totally helpless. How could this man we loved do this? How could he cause his family so much hurt? For a long time my strongest emotion was anger. I planned all sorts of revenge. I wanted to inflict on him the pain that he had inflicted on all of us. My daughter, the children and I all saw a therapist for quite a while to help us sort through those emotions. There were false starts, wrong turns and several moments of collapse as we struggled towards a new life. I did not ever spit on him. I did not put rotten fish under his mattress. I did not demand an apology. None of that seemed helpful. We all just kept putting one foot in front of the other and moved slowly on to a better place.

Today my grandchildren are doing well. They are honor roll students with many friends. They love both their mother and their father. He is involved in their lives. I love my grandchildren. They need to have a relationship with their dad. I am always polite and friendly in his presence. He told me recently that I was the best ex mother-in-law in the world. I guess that is a compliment. Somehow I don't feel very complimented.

My daughter has a full and busy life. She is happy. She is surrounded by many friends and a sweetheart who makes her know she is loved.

There is no such thing as a good divorce. There is just too much pain involved. Divorce is the end of the happily ever after dream, but it is not the end of life. There are new dreams and new joys on the other side of the pain. The scars remain. Sometimes the hurt and anger still bubbles up and burst all around us. Life just keeps moving on. We count our many blessings and look forward to good things that God has in store for us.

Tuesday, June 09, 2009

25 Years

It is lovely summer day today. The temperature is in the mid eighties with a gentle breeze blowing. It would be a lovely day for a wedding. Twenty five years ago today the temperature was 104 degrees. There was no breeze. It was humid and hazy. It was my daughter's wedding day. In spite of the weather the wedding was beautiful. In the twenty-five years since that day they have built a strong, happy marriage and raised two beautiful children. Perhaps the weather on their wedding day was a sign of life to come. The world may throw some bad stuff your way, but you can still make something beautiful.


I was thinking today about my husband, the father of the bride. He did so much behind the scenes to make that day special.

One day, about a month before the wedding, he dropped the bride off for the final fitting of her dress. (The dress had been my wedding dress and needed some alterations for my tiny daughter.) He then went on to do a long list of errands. When he returned later to pick her up he was unprepared for the emotion that made him sit down and cry. There before him stood his baby girl, a beautiful bride wearing the dress that his bride had worn. He was overcome.

The day before the wedding, guests began to arrive from many places. The grandparents all flew in from California. Our house was full of happy people. The friends and relatives began coming. Someone had to pick Robert up at the bus station in Washington. A car full of wedding guests broke down near Baltimore. My husband calmly put his tools together and headed up the road to rescue them and fix the car. Just as he was leaving another call came in. This time wedding guests had broken down coming from Virginia. He assured them he would be there in about an hour. Somehow he managed to get all the cars running and everyone arrived on time. That evening the bride's car broke down, the car they needed for their honeymoon trip. They were just going to rent a car, but the bride and groom were only twenty years old. You need to be twenty-one to rent a car. Finally we found a used car lot whose owners knew us. They agreed to rent a car to the young couple for their honeymoon. While they were gone my husband got their car fixed and running again.



It was a beautiful wedding. The memories of that day and all the events around it always make me smile.
Happy anniversary to a wonderful couple.

Friday, June 05, 2009

In The Blink Of An Eye



How is it possible that in the blink of an eye this sweet little baby girl has turned into a bright and beautiful high school graduate?

Why do I always cry when Pomp and Circumstance is played?

Thursday, June 04, 2009

Reiki

I got reikied yesterday. I feel better today.

For my birthday last month my daughter gave me a gift certificate for a reiki session with my friend Yolinna. I decided to cash it in yesterday. I had been feeling down in the dumps, a bad case of the blahs, and my arthritis had really been aggravating me. My shoulders felt like they were carrying a heavy burden. Seemed like a good time for a bit of healing.

I can't explain how reiki works. If you want an explanation go here. It's not like anything else I know, but I'll try to share my experience. Yolinna is a dear friend. She loves me and I enjoy being with her so it was comfortable to go to her home. After some chit chat I climbed onto the massage table in what she calls her spirit room. It is peaceful, airy place and I began to relax and closed my eyes. When I looked again Yolinna was just standing by me, praying. It felt nice to know someone was praying for me. Then she put her hands on my head, that's all, just lay her hands there. I began to feel warmth radiating from her hands into me. She moved her hands to different areas of my body. Sometimes I felt warmth, sometime the heat from her hands was intense. We made a few comments, but mostly it was just quiet and peaceful. An hour later she was done. The blahs were gone, the shoulders less tense, and the arthritis pain less bothersome. Somehow my chakras got aligned and my energy got itself in balance. I don't know what chakras are either, but I do feel better and that is nice.

Thanks Yolinna.

Tuesday, June 02, 2009

Swimmer


My older son was a competitive swimmer growing up. He was quite good. He got up at 4AM every day and swam for two hours before school. He went to practice every day after school and swam two more hours. He had ribbons and trophies everywhere from his many meets. This past week-end we attended a picnic at the pool where he swam during his childhood summers. There is a board on the wall there that still has his name holding record times at local swim meets. He dropped out of swimming when he went to college. Other things became more important. He grew up, married and raised a family. Last year he decided to start swimming again. He has once again begun to swim competitively. He now practices every morning before work. He is a pretty good swimmer again, but not a record maker. Now he is a good man with a job, a wife and a family who enjoys swimming.

Happy birthday David. I love you. You will always be a winner in my eyes.

Monday, June 01, 2009

FISH

One of the things I do to make myself useful is to volunteer for FISH. I don't think that is an acronym for anything, just a made up name for the group. FISH is a group of people who volunteer their time to give rides to people who are unable to drive. Most of the passengers are older folks whose health no longer allows them to drive. It is an easy thing to do. I have a car and time and enjoy being a helper.

Spending time in the waiting rooms of different doctors can be a very interesting experience. Most often I bring a book and the room is a quiet place to read, but other times it gives me an opportunity for prime people watching.

One of my passengers had an appointment with a psychiatrist with a packed waiting room. The patients were happily sharing their diagnoses and how different anti-psychotic drugs affected them. On the way home my passenger pointed out all the Washington DC license plates we saw on the road. We live in suburban DC so this is a common sight. She told me that she kept track of them and has frequently called Homeland Security because there is a plot for DC to take over Maryland. I imagine Homeland Security is thankful for her vigilance.

One day I took a passenger to a dialysis appointment. The patients in this office have spent a lot of time together and know each other well. Their conversation was a debate about whether or not to have a kidney transplant. Dialysis takes about four hours a day three times weekly. I would think they would all be anxious to get a new kidney so they would no longer need dialysis. One gentleman said his son wanted to donate a kidney, but he refused. Donating a kidney is a major surgical procedure. What if something happened to his son? The fear of that possibility overwhelmed him and he could not allow it. The fear of accepting a cadaver kidney seemed to be scary to several patients. The known routine of dialysis seemed preferable to the unknown risks of a transplant. It was an interesting conversation.

Some waiting rooms are bright and cheerful, some are dark and depressing. Some are crowded with long waits, some are near empty with no waiting time. Some drives are short, some are further away. My passengers are always grateful.

Friday, May 29, 2009

The Bee


I watched the National Spelling Bee last night. It was great fun to watch the kids and to cheer them on.

This morning I attended the spelling bee for my granddaughter's elementary school. She had won the bee for her fifth grade class and was in the whole
school competition. About thirty-five students were seated on the stage as the competition began. The school cafeteria was filled with her school-mates and parents. The competitors came one-by-one to the microphone. The audience seemed to hold their breath as each student spelled their word. We exhaled with each correctly spelled word and sighed when a word was misspelled. The excitement grew. Lexie came to microphone. Your word is “tetanus,” said the announcer. “Would you please repeat the word,” responded Lexie. She took a breath and spelled “t-e-t-a-n-u-s.” She advanced to the next round. Several competitors were eliminated. Her next word was violently, which she spelled correctly. She advanced two more rounds. There were now only five students left on stage. Her word was “eliminated.” She spelled “e-l-e-m-i-n-a-t-e-d.”

We were all very proud of her. She will never again be eliminated by the word eliminated.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Laughter

I love to laugh. Laughter is one of those things that just makes you feel good all over. When I laugh I laugh loud and long. It used to embarrass my children. Now that they are grown they say they like to hear me laugh. I don't laugh loud and long as often as I would like to. It has been a while since I enjoyed a good belly laugh. Last weekend my eleven-year-old granddaughter picked out a movie for us to watch. I loved it because it made me laugh out loud. My sides hurt from laughing. It was just a silly slapstick movie, but it was wonderful. If you need a good laugh watch "Mr Bean's Holiday."

Sunday, May 24, 2009

Memorial Day Parade



Yesterday my town celebrated Memorial Day with our annual parade. It was one of those wonderful events that made me glad to part of this community. The boy scouts, the girl scouts, the high school band and pom squad all marched proudly down the street. There were dancers and baton twirlers, red-hat ladies and local politicians. Vintage cars decorated with red, white and blue joined fire trucks and police cars. I knew many of the marchers. We waved and cheered and had a lovely day. It was a time of patriotism and community that made me feel proud to be an American.









Thursday, May 21, 2009

Music

Music is one of God's better gifts. It seems to touch all my moods and makes life better in many ways.

Our congregation celebrated it's annual Music Sunday this week. Music was the focus of our worship to God. We had music that combined the voices of the congregation, the choirs, the handbells, the orchestra and the organ. We filled the sanctuary with with loud, boisterous, joyous music of praise. We had quiet instrumentals that felt like a haunting whisper from the Holy Spirit. The music was beautiful, uplifting and holy. The Psalmist was wise when he said in his last chapter:

Praise him with the sounding of the trumpet,
Praise him with the harp and lyre,
Praise him with tambourine and dancing,
Praise him with the strings and flute,
Praise him with the clash of cymbals,
Praise him with resounding cymbals.
Let everything that has breath praise the LORD.

Last night we celebrated with another evening of music. This time it was the Senior Chorale singing rock and roll. The one-hundred member chorale forgot their creaky joints and aching backs and we rocked the house. The six hundred folks in the audience were clapping and singing along with us to music of the fifties. It was our music. Dressed in poodle skirts and ponytails or blue jeans and letter sweaters, we all felt like we teenagers again. Music that makes a bunch of senior citizens feel young is a wonderful thing!

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Master of Education



Graduations are always emotional events. I can't count the number of graduations I've attended, but this morning's event was one of the proudest moments of my life. My son Paul received his Master of Education degree.

Paul is my youngest child. School has always been hard for him. In kindergarten they told us he was immature and he needed to repeat the year. In second grade he was having a great deal of trouble academically and they gave him a series of tests. They told us he had a low IQ and he would never learn to read. In high school they said he would never go to college. In college they said he would never graduate. School was hard for Paul. He worked hard. It took him longer than others, but they were wrong. He did indeed graduate.

He now teaches special education and he never tells kids they won't learn to read.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Older Americans Month

May is National Older Americans month. In Maryland this month was celebrated yesterday by an awards ceremony in Annapolis. I was there with the Bowie Senior Chorale. Our singing group won the performing arts award. Several awards were given. My favorite went to a Ms Angela Witt for her participation in the Maryland Senior Olympics. She has won 80 medals, 54 of them gold. She is 99 years young and is still an avid walker and a very funny charming lady. I want to be like her when I get old.

Who is an older person who has enriched your life and made this a better world? This month is the time to tell that person thank you.

Monday, May 11, 2009

Mother's Day 2009

We enjoyed a near perfect Mother's Day yesterday. The weather was beautiful. My family gathered at my daughter's home, where the moms all enjoyed mimosas and conversation on the front porch.

In the kitchen the guys all worked to set a delicious feast for us. We had steak, scallops and everything else to make a wonderful dinner.


Family, food, friends. Life's greatest blessings.

Saturday, May 09, 2009

Mothers Day



I recently found this picture of my mother and me. I love her expression. I see the protecting, comforting fierce love that made me know everything was safe and good.

My earliest memories are sitting in her warm, cozy lap. She would rock me and sing, “Jesus Loves Me” to me. Her lap was the most wonderful place in the world. There are many times I long for that wonderful, warm, safe place.

One of the last times I saw my mom she was sitting in a big recliner chair in the nursing home. For over a year she had been lost in a world of dementia and blindness. She no longer spoke. This day I sat close to her and put my arms around her and began singing to her. “Jesus loves me this I know.” Suddenly her weak voice joined mine. “Yes Jesus loves me, Yes Jesus loves me.” She sang the entire song with me. Afterward she turned to me and smiled. She whispered, “That's right, honey, he still does.” Those were the last words I ever heard her speak.

I look forward to heaven. It will be wonderful to be able to sing together again.

Friday, May 08, 2009

Exhale

I talked with my brother Bill this evening. He got the biopsy report today. NO CANCER! When I heard the report I felt like I could finally exhale. It felt like I had been holding my breath ever since we learned he had a mass in his lung. What a wonderful relief.

The doctor does not know for sure what the mass is, but it is not cancer. It may be an infection that has somehow encapsulated or a cyst of some sort. More tests will have to be done, but the mass is not cancer. That is good enough news for us all today.

Tuesday, May 05, 2009

Worry

One of my favorite biblical phrases is found several places in Psalms. It is “fret not thyself.” It means the same thing as as Jesus' command, “Do not worry,” which he repeats several times in the Sermon on the Mount. I'm getting better about following this command, but sometimes it is hard to just rest in the Lord and not worry about life and all it's concerns.

Today one of the big things I am trying not to worry about is my big brother Bill. He went to the hospital last week coughing up blood. A mass was discovered in his lung. He is having a biopsy today. He has a history of colon cancer. Is this a primary or a secondary lesion? His wife remains in fragile health in a nursing home since her head injury last summer. Life just seems very hard for them now.

Of course I am trying not to worry about the various other health, financial, social and spiritual concerns that are present in the lives of my friends and family. God has helped us to survive this far and I am trying to trust Him now with all my worries.

Resting in God and trusting is not always an easy command to follow.

Saturday, May 02, 2009

A Puzzelment

Amid all the talk in politics about whether or not torture of suspected terrorists is ever permissible, I find this survey from Pew Research Forum a puzzlement. According to the survey the more often a person attends church services, the more likely that person is to approve of torture. The people who attend church the least often are most likely to disapprove of torture. It seems to me that church folks who are taught about grace, mercy, forgiveness and love should be against torture more often than those who not. I find this strange.

Can someone explain to me why the survey found this result?

Thursday, April 30, 2009

14



Fourteen years ago today was one of the scariest days of my life. My daughter was in labor with her second child. I had been with her two years earlier when she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. That had been one of the most awesome moments of my life. There are no words to describe watching your child give birth. I felt honored to again be part of this wonder of birth. When I arrived she had already been in labor for several hours and things appeared to be going as well as such things can go. Since I was there her husband said he was going to go out to the waiting room for a few minutes to visit with his parents who had just arrived from out of state. The moment he left things became scary. The fetal heart rate began to drop rapidly. Something was very wrong. Suddenly the doctor was there shouting orders. “We've got to get that baby out now!” Nurses began running. The doctor grabbed the bed where my little girl lay and started pushing her down the hall. I could only watch and pray as she disappeared into the operating room. Just then her husband strolled back through the doors to find me crying and pointing in the direction of the operating room. He ran. I called home to tell everyone to pray and went to sit with the other grandparents and to wait and to pray. It seemed a very long wait, but in fact was not long at all, when I saw my smiling son-in-law walk into the room. “Everyone is fine. We have a healthy baby boy.” Tears of relief are very sweet.

That baby boy celebrates his fourteenth birthday today. He a a tall, handsome, lacrosse-plying young man with a sweet smile and a gentle spirit who brings us great joy.

Happy birthday grandson. We love you

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Happiness is

A new washer and dryer.


It is good to have a husband who can become an electrician and plumber when needed

Saturday, April 25, 2009

Christianity

I am reading a good book called “Abide with Me” by Elizabeth Strout. It is the story of a New England minister as he struggles with life after his wife's death.

I like this man's definition of Christianity. He says that being a Christian is not a hobby. Being a Christian is serious stuff. Being a Christian means asking yourself every step of the way, “How can love best be served?”

Do you think that this is a good definition?